I was just thinking about how this guy I know, who knows this guy, who is getting married to a woman whose parents have died in an accident of some kind. They both had something like a million dollar policy, so she is at least going to be financially OK....
Or is she? The guy she is getting married to is already talking about how he plans to quit his job, chill for a while, and use her money to start up a new business for himself.
Although I may be presumptuous, it just rubbed me the wrong way. I mean, here is a young woman who has suffered a tragic loss, and all he can think about is how he is going to spend her money.
So, the first thing I blurbed out is, "Pre-nup". This guy I know replied, "That would be the smart thing to do. Problem is, she is really young and not thinking straight right now. So, I don't think she has a pre-nup, and knowing this guy, he would never allow her to have one or agree to it."
I can't do anything for this woman. I don't even have a clue as to who she is. But perhaps this will serve as a warning for others. Somewhere out there, a woman lost her parents, and a guy is marrying to his lottery ticket.
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November 25th, 2009 at 03:20 pm
November 25th, 2009 at 04:30 pm 1259166656
November 25th, 2009 at 04:50 pm 1259167842
A prenup is a great idea. I insisted on one before marrying my dh, but I was in my early 40s. It's different when you are only in your 20s and grieving as well.
November 25th, 2009 at 10:03 pm 1259186626
DF and i will be getting married in june sometime and we have discussed the idea of getting a pre nup but have no substantial assets to speak of. the only assets we MIGHT acquire are our parent's homes in the distant future (hopefully) so i don't think we will be getting a pre nub. maybe a post nup if those assets materialize. your thoughts?
November 25th, 2009 at 10:26 pm 1259188013
Yeah, there is something called an ante-nup, which is like a pre-nup, but done after the marriage instead of before.
I agree that if you don't have much assets yet, then I wouldn't worry about the pre-nup. The house, if it ends up in both of your names some day, by default, it should be split 50/50. But I'm also not a lawyer, so don't quote me on that.