The Wall Street Journal has an interesting article called "
Are you a Secret Spender?" Among the signs of being a Secret Spender, my favorite one is "sneaking out and bought an item in the middle of the night". Exactly what can be bought by sneaking out in the middle of the night?"Pssst. Over here. You like baby wipes? Yeah? You want some baby wipes? I got just the thing. Please come over to my car trunk and peruse the merchandise."
All joking aside, I confess that I too was a Secret Spender once, back when I was married. I bought a rifle without my ex's knowledge or consent. I did that because we were so bad with money that, I figured that was the only way I was going to able to "keep" anything for myself. Otherwise, I felt like I was grinding everyday simply to fulfill her shopping list of wishes and demands, with nothing to show for myself.
Now, normally, one would think that she would be upset, but it turned out that she was not. Well, not terribly. She too was a spender, and instead, basically couldn't understand why I spent our money on that when we could've spent it on something else we can both enjoy instead. Yeah, such as it is when you put two spenders together....
But those were my deep, dark days. So, now that I told you mine, anybody want to fess up to their secret spendings?
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August 14th, 2010 at 06:00 am 1281762025
It also reads like secret spending really becomes a problem if the finances are blended because then it seems to me that the secret spending a reflex against the person who really controls the joint money.
Around here what would really be interesting is being a secret saver. Wouldn't surprise me that we have a couple of those around here.
August 14th, 2010 at 10:12 pm 1281820357
Do you still have the rifle?
August 15th, 2010 at 04:22 am 1281842567
Nowadays, I could easily buy it back (and there would be no one around to object), but of course, I see it now as an expensive hobby. As such, I have yet to buy it back. Even with my interests and hobbies, I am trying to be as practical as possible.