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October 14th, 2009 at 01:48 pm

I tried to make them quickies, but as you can see, I failed miserably. Big Grin Also, if you're not in the mood to hear me whine, please skip this.

* Ok, I just saw something that shocked me. I won't name any names, but I have a problem with authors that will delete just about any and all comments except the ones that he happens to like.

Look, if you don't like comments (where they are allowed here), please go somewhere else, set up your own blog, and disable the commenting there.

And NO, I will NOT refer anyone I know to you for business. If you can't take even accept a simple little comment, then I have to wonder just what else you're liable to do with our money.

* I don't know how many of you are also on the forums, but um, there's this guy (and I'm sure you know who it is) who is uh, starting to get on my nerves. Big Grin

I really can't figure out why he feels the need to "compete" against me. As though I'm "That Guy" who is collaborating with "The System" to bring down freedom-loving freedom fighters I mean investors everywhere so that we can all be under some kind of um oppressive investment regime or something. I don't know.

I'm not terribly upset or anything. All this is online, and I can always walk away and putter along with the rest of my life. Plus, I understand he's going through a divorce, and that may have scrambled his brain kind of like the way my divorce scrambled mine. Some of you regulars here know that I wasn't well for a long time.

* So, I have this co-worker. He's married, wife recently lost her job due to the recession, and he is currently both the breadwinner and I believe the money manager of the house.

Now, this guy is a nice guy and I know he's also having a lot of issues with his wife right now. But to cut to the chase, he's also been paying for an escort service for sexual affairs.

Not only that, but these escorts cost anywhere from $200 to $300 an hour! Call me prudish and narrow-minded, but why is it OK to be married and yet cheat on your wife financially and sexually like this? And it's expensive too!

Now, this is kind of touchy, so believe me when I say that I do NOT want to get involved, and nobody else except you fairly anonymous online people are going to know about this.

But you know what's crazy? As much as I am personally against something like this, I can't say that it actually bothers me that much. I guess that, in the end, it simply doesn't affect me in any way. He's still a nice guy, and we're just here to work.

15 Responses to “Latest pet peeves”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Last I checked those of us here don't blog for the money! I always delete the comments asking for guest post or otherwise related comments...they add nothing of value. Other comments get to stay!

  2. Caoineag Says:

    The salesmen who creep in are obnoxious. I quickly figure out who they are and refuse to click on their posts. As to the forum poster getting competitive, well you have my sympathy. I stopped posting on the forum for awhile because that was happening to me. Unfortunately 90% of human communication is tone and facial expressions so forum posts can hit the wrong note very quickly. Since I am naturally turned off by competitiveness, I tend to even now avoid anything I think might rile me or anything that is starting to get into the danger zone.

  3. frugaltexan75 Says:

    "Call me prudish and narrow-minded, but why is it OK to be married and yet cheat on your wife financially and sexually like this?"

    Um ... because it isn't OK. How is it different than a married man cheating on his wife with a non-escort? Other than the expense (though that might not be so different ...) there really is no difference. Cheating is cheating is cheating.

  4. Broken Arrow Says:

    Yeah, I'm OK with spam comments being deleted. Once in a while though, there are a few blogs that will sneak in to basically plug for their business. One in particular just struck me the wrong way.

    That's a good point. He might trying to just have some fun, and I may have read him incorrectly. I do try to get along with everyone I can though, and really, I don't have a problem with this guy.

    Hehe, yeah, I think it's wrong too, and it would bother me greatly if I was involved somehow. Fortunately, I'm not, and in that case, I'd rather not judge or get involved. I'd rather just pre-occupy myself with my own life. Big Grin

  5. miz pat Says:


    Ok - he's a nice guy and he's cheating financially and sexually on his marriage partner. Tell me, can you trust him? Would you trust him with your money? Would you trust him with your deepest secrets?

    He may be a nice guy and easy to work with, but I would never trust him.

  6. Petunia Says:

    I usually stay away from the blogs where someone's trying to sell something (after I determine that's what's going on).

    As for your friend. . . do guys at work really talk about that??? It seems like a pretty personal topic. If he'd put half as much energy into his marriage as he does his, uh, activities. . . he might be surprised. I'm with miz pat on the trust thing.

  7. mooshocker Says:

    Ugggg. I would be hypocritical to judge and am not worthy to do so. That said, I pray that this man learns how hurtful his actions are not only to himself and his wife but ultimately the escort who in time, will certainly have to confront her demons. God bless.

  8. Broken Arrow Says:

    No, I certainly wouldn't get into a relationship or even date the guy. Big Grin But, yeah, I trust him enough to work with him. We're just co-workers, and we just need to get work done.

    And believe me, even though I am a guy, I can understand the feeling when it comes to these matters. My ex also had an affair with another man. But again, that's also why I am so shocked that he doesn't seem to bother me....

    In fact, I was reading an article elsewhere that women nowadays are just as likely, if not more so, to cheat on a man. It's just that they tend to be under-reported because women seem to be better at being discrete and keeping a secret.

    Scary stuff, all around.

  9. homebody Says:

    Cheating is wrong, that's why it bothers you! It doesn't mean you are a prude or judgemental. Wrong is wrong. Geez I must be narrow minded and prudish too. I have a coworker who works in a strip joint (second job) and her stories are starting to make me and the other coworkers squirm and cringe. I guess she thinks we find it interesting, but actually we find it disturbing. We have not quite figured out how to deal with it yet.

  10. monkeymama Says:

    Um, juicy stuff!

    I am also surprised why anyone would admit that to a co-worker. But I think it is a good step BA, that it doesn't bother you too much, considering your past. Could be a good thing?

  11. ceejay74 Says:

    Curious about which spammy blog deleted all their comments...I don't think you have to worry about them reading this; I don't think those guys are here to do anything but publicize their businesses. Smile
    Wanna hear the most insensitive co-worker confidence ever? One of NT's female co-workers in England was devastated because she learned her fiance had a long-term secret girlfriend and had even had kids with the other woman. NT's gross male co-worker approached this heartbroken person and said that he thought they really had a lot in common, because HE was cheating on his wife! I'm sorry, how does being cheated on make you able to relate to a cheater?

  12. Broken Arrow Says:

    MM, I think he's comfortable with me enough to share it... despite the fact that he knows about my past and how strongly I feel against infidelity.

    I guess he thought that I can be cool about it, and he's right. There's quite literally nothing to be gained by me getting upset over it. If I did get upset, it would only make the work environment a lot more toxic than it has to be.

    So yeah, I agree that my lack of reaction here is a good thing.

    ceejay: Funny you should ask, because you are that one comment he did not delete!

  13. ceejay74 Says:

    Oh, OK, now I know who you're talking about! Smile I usually don't comment on spammy blogs, but since it did prompt a posting of my own I thought I should be polite. Wink

  14. miz pat Says:

    Perhaps its the fact that you are not emotionally invested in this guy that makes it not so upsetting And that is really good. You are going through enough stuff.

    And its good to retain a non-toxic atmosphere.

    I still would not trust the son of a gun. I could probably work well with him and be a good team member, but I still wouldn't trust him emotionally.

    At this point in my life, I never want to be married again. The idea of cheating on someone crushes me.

    Maybe some day i can write some kind of book for young people on marriage and relationships. Of course, first I have to figure out how to have one that is healthy.

    You just take care of yourself and be happy.

  15. LuxLiving Says:

    I'm always uncomfortable with these kind of revelations. "Uhhhh, I could have gone a million years without knowing that. Dude/Dudette, that is WAY TOO MUCH information." is usually my response to them!

    I could work with them, although my relationship would likely cool.

    And note to others who might be thinking of unburdening themselves to folks - how many people do you think like ammunition like this for blackmailing you? Nothing like handing over all your secrets to a potential enemy! Geeesh, get a clue!

    If you're going to be STOOOOPID? Mums the word!

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