I tried to make them quickies, but as you can see, I failed miserably. Also, if you're not in the mood to hear me whine, please skip this.
* Ok, I just saw something that shocked me. I won't name any names, but I have a problem with authors that will delete just about any and all comments except the ones that he happens to like.
Look, if you don't like comments (where they are allowed here), please go somewhere else, set up your own blog, and disable the commenting there.
And NO, I will NOT refer anyone I know to you for business. If you can't take even accept a simple little comment, then I have to wonder just what else you're liable to do with our money.
* I don't know how many of you are also on the forums, but um, there's this guy (and I'm sure you know who it is) who is uh, starting to get on my nerves.
I really can't figure out why he feels the need to "compete" against me. As though I'm "That Guy" who is collaborating with "The System" to bring down freedom-loving freedom fighters I mean investors everywhere so that we can all be under some kind of um oppressive investment regime or something. I don't know.
I'm not terribly upset or anything. All this is online, and I can always walk away and putter along with the rest of my life. Plus, I understand he's going through a divorce, and that may have scrambled his brain kind of like the way my divorce scrambled mine. Some of you regulars here know that I wasn't well for a long time.
* So, I have this co-worker. He's married, wife recently lost her job due to the recession, and he is currently both the breadwinner and I believe the money manager of the house.
Now, this guy is a nice guy and I know he's also having a lot of issues with his wife right now. But to cut to the chase, he's also been paying for an escort service for sexual affairs.
Not only that, but these escorts cost anywhere from $200 to $300 an hour! Call me prudish and narrow-minded, but why is it OK to be married and yet cheat on your wife financially and sexually like this? And it's expensive too!
Now, this is kind of touchy, so believe me when I say that I do NOT want to get involved, and nobody else except you fairly anonymous online people are going to know about this.
But you know what's crazy? As much as I am personally against something like this, I can't say that it actually bothers me that much. I guess that, in the end, it simply doesn't affect me in any way. He's still a nice guy, and we're just here to work.
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October 14th, 2009 at 09:48 pm
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October 14th, 2009 at 10:53 pm 1255557237
Um ... because it isn't OK. How is it different than a married man cheating on his wife with a non-escort? Other than the expense (though that might not be so different ...) there really is no difference. Cheating is cheating is cheating.
October 14th, 2009 at 11:25 pm 1255559156
Yeah, I'm OK with spam comments being deleted. Once in a while though, there are a few blogs that will sneak in to basically plug for their business. One in particular just struck me the wrong way.
Caoineag:
That's a good point. He might trying to just have some fun, and I may have read him incorrectly. I do try to get along with everyone I can though, and really, I don't have a problem with this guy.
frugaltexan:
Hehe, yeah, I think it's wrong too, and it would bother me greatly if I was involved somehow. Fortunately, I'm not, and in that case, I'd rather not judge or get involved. I'd rather just pre-occupy myself with my own life.
October 14th, 2009 at 11:37 pm 1255559871
Ok - he's a nice guy and he's cheating financially and sexually on his marriage partner. Tell me, can you trust him? Would you trust him with your money? Would you trust him with your deepest secrets?
He may be a nice guy and easy to work with, but I would never trust him.
October 14th, 2009 at 11:39 pm 1255559943
As for your friend. . . do guys at work really talk about that??? It seems like a pretty personal topic. If he'd put half as much energy into his marriage as he does his, uh, activities. . . he might be surprised. I'm with miz pat on the trust thing.
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October 14th, 2009 at 11:55 pm 1255560942
And believe me, even though I am a guy, I can understand the feeling when it comes to these matters. My ex also had an affair with another man. But again, that's also why I am so shocked that he doesn't seem to bother me....
In fact, I was reading an article elsewhere that women nowadays are just as likely, if not more so, to cheat on a man. It's just that they tend to be under-reported because women seem to be better at being discrete and keeping a secret.
Scary stuff, all around.
October 15th, 2009 at 12:26 am 1255562774
October 15th, 2009 at 02:05 am 1255568743
I am also surprised why anyone would admit that to a co-worker. But I think it is a good step BA, that it doesn't bother you too much, considering your past. Could be a good thing?
October 15th, 2009 at 04:22 am 1255576957
Wanna hear the most insensitive co-worker confidence ever? One of NT's female co-workers in England was devastated because she learned her fiance had a long-term secret girlfriend and had even had kids with the other woman. NT's gross male co-worker approached this heartbroken person and said that he thought they really had a lot in common, because HE was cheating on his wife! I'm sorry, how does being cheated on make you able to relate to a cheater?
October 15th, 2009 at 04:25 am 1255577147
I guess he thought that I can be cool about it, and he's right. There's quite literally nothing to be gained by me getting upset over it. If I did get upset, it would only make the work environment a lot more toxic than it has to be.
So yeah, I agree that my lack of reaction here is a good thing.
ceejay: Funny you should ask, because you are that one comment he did not delete!
October 15th, 2009 at 03:18 pm 1255616315
October 15th, 2009 at 03:46 pm 1255617989
And its good to retain a non-toxic atmosphere.
I still would not trust the son of a gun. I could probably work well with him and be a good team member, but I still wouldn't trust him emotionally.
At this point in my life, I never want to be married again. The idea of cheating on someone crushes me.
Maybe some day i can write some kind of book for young people on marriage and relationships. Of course, first I have to figure out how to have one that is healthy.
You just take care of yourself and be happy.
October 18th, 2009 at 12:25 am 1255821957
I could work with them, although my relationship would likely cool.
And note to others who might be thinking of unburdening themselves to folks - how many people do you think like ammunition like this for blackmailing you? Nothing like handing over all your secrets to a potential enemy! Geeesh, get a clue!
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