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Emotional shopping

December 31st, 2009 at 06:25 pm

So, this guy I know bought an iPhone. He's unemployed, won't look for even a part time job, subsisting entirely on student loans, and buys an iPhone.

His reasoning? I quote, "Well, I had a tough few days, and I decided that, you know what? I'm just going to get one."

Amazing. Everybody has tough days. Everybody. And those tough days that he was talking about? Well, long story short, he broke up with his ex-girlfriend. Let's just put it that way, because there's more to it, and frankly, I thought he was being a manipulative tool to her anyways.

Yes, this is the same guy that I'm trying very hard to not hang out too often. He's just, I don't know, he drives me batty. It's not so much that he has issues that bothers me. After all, who doesn't have issues?

It's just that he doesn't treat me much like a friend anymore, especially when a woman is involved. Even with waitresses that are spoken for or even married and I'm not even remotely interested in, he would look at me like competition and talk to them about my flaws like somehow it's just innocent humor.

I don't know why I even bother hanging out with him. I don't see him often as it is, and he can actually be cool sometimes. But you know what? If he doesn't want to treat me like a friend, then I'm just going to say forget it.

7 Responses to “Emotional shopping”

  1. Ima saver Says:

    I certainly can understand how you feel. I have a friend who cannot afford to pay rent or heat her home, yet she buys cigarettes every day.

  2. gamecock43 Says:

    I have a friend like that. She is the friend who told me I should not marry BB because he is broke and I could do better. Everytime I hang out with her I feel like she is judging me and she says ridiculously snobby things that is offensive to me. But I keep hanging out with her. Even though I get nothing out of it. I end our visits more stressed and annoyed with her than before I saw her. But I think I am one of her best friends. So she obviously gets some value out of me- so I keep being her friend.

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    Yep. Time to cut the ties.

  4. ceejay74 Says:

    Yep, I hate to see that emotional spending. Most of us on this site would (and do) hunker down, stop the bleeding, get into damage-control mode when things get tough. Not the rest of the world. I have a Facebook/Twitter "friend" (I've never met him, but he's friends with many of my other friends so we're e-buddies) and he was laid off for months, in danger of not getting a new work visa (he was in England) and yet all his status updates were about being at various pubs, buying a new iPhone, going to shows...then he bemoans the fact that he went through his savings and had to live off credit cards for a month. I didn't say anything because I don't know him well enough, but it is frustrating.

  5. baselle Says:

    I used to have close friends like that. Now? Not so close.

  6. dmontngrey Says:

    I barely can stomach being around my own mother these days for similar reasons. Know how much that hurts? Ugh. Actually, I don't think I can stomach being around her at all. I had intense stomach pains the whole weekend we were up there for Christmas, and for a couple days after we got home. Frown I know you'll make the right decision when the time comes, and perhaps it will be time to cut ties. It happens.

  7. Provi Says:

    Emotional Spending is definitly the word for it. It's too bad for him, but we're all on you're side. I'm guilty of it too, but it's his waste of money.

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